5 signs that your relationship might be heading nowhere

Let’s face it, no one loves being in a relationship that doesn’t seem to be heading anywhere. But sometimes it just happens.

What’s worse, you might be blinded by your feelings so much that it takes an honest and blunt evaluation to come to the realization that things are not working out.

In some other case, you might not even see it. It may require someone with no sentimental stake in the relationship to evaluate things and tell you the harsh truth. When you need a reality check on your relationship, here are some red flags to watch out for.

You are not free around each other

It’s okay to still have some inhibitions around your partner. But consider this; do you really want to spend the rest of your life with somebody that makes you want to pretend to be someone you are not?

The ideal situation in any relationship is freedom without pretense. If you are still scared of letting your partner see you at your worst or you just can’t be yourself around them, maybe it’s time to reconsider that relationship.

No talks about the future

Couple looking for a future together

One of the surest ways to tell if you are on solid ground with your partner is whether you are considering and planning a future together. You might not talk about the future right from the onset of the relationship, but if after some years you still don’t think or talk about how things would work in the long run, then something might be out of place.

On the other hand, it is even possible that you talk about it but your plans are completely divergent. If neither of you is willing to let go of anything for the other, then you might not be heading in the same direction after all.

You don’t ask each other for advice

While relationships should be about fun and excitement, occasionally something serious happens in your life and you need advice. At that point who do you talk to?

If your partner never asks you for suggestions or advice and you don’t include each other in an important decision in your life, then you probably aren’t meant for each other.

Sharing important stuff with each means there is trust in your relationship.

Everything is a secret

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if after months or years of your relationship your partner still wants everything Hushed up, he or she is probably not serious about you.

Being uncomfortable about sharing your relationship with friends and family is a red flag.

While privacy is important, keeping your entire relationship secret from close friends and family members means you are either not proud of each other, or you have something to hide.

Every fight and argument is nasty

Couple fighting in a bench

This is the truth; you are two different people with different opinions. This means once in a while arguments will arise over different issues. Fighting is never fun.  But it is almost inevitable.

The big question is you should ask is, what happens when you fight. It is okay to fight or argue once in a while. In fact, it is healthy for your relationship. But if it too frequent or if every conflict turns nasty and leads to physical or psychological abuse, that relationship might be heading nowhere good.


At the end of the day, these tips shouldn’t be taken as textbook rules. Every relationship is unique and you might find out that one or two of these tips us truly about your relationship.

This doesn’t mean that your relationship is definitely heading for the rocks. Maybe you just need to work out some things with your partner. But if you find yourself ticking every box, then you should really reevaluate your relationship and your feelings about each other.