Is Going To An Escort Right After Being In A Relationship?

You are a man (or a woman!). For months or even years, you’ve been hitting the brothels or calling up escorts. But you are also casually dating. It’s all fine.

Then it happens – a casual relationship becomes serious. And suddenly you find yourself wondering if you are going to have to break your escort habit.

What do you do?

The answer will vary somewhat person to person, and relationship to relationship. But we want to talk about the pros and cons of seeing escorts while you are in a relationship.

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Are You Good At Setting Boundaries?

Escorts will tell you that sex with clients is different from sex with partners.

This fundamental difference comes down to the amount of emotional energy most people spend with prostitutes and their partners. In general, with a partner, you are having sex not just to get off, but also to demonstrate your love.

With an escort, it’s just about the fun times. But ask yourself the question, “Can I just have fun with an escort and not feel guilty?”

If you can’t set up that boundary in your head, then you should probably just put escorts on the back burner for a while.

Is There Something My Partner Refuses To Do?

Being in a relationship is great. But at the end of the day, we all have our fetishes. And they are not likely to go away.

The problem may be that your partner might not be into your fetish. Do you really need anal? Or oral? Will they not compromise?

Can you live without those things – or whatever your kink is?

If you can’t get your kink from your partner and know it is a deeply ingrained part of you that needs to be satisfied, then an escort is probably your best bet. She or he won’t try to break up your relationship, and you can get what you need.

The only question is – do you tell your partner you are going to a professional to get your kink worked out? Or do you keep quiet about it?

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If You See an Escort Do You Tell Your Partner About It?

Talking with your partner about going to see an escort can be a difficult conversation. One way to bring it up is to talk about having an open relationship. But if you are going to do that you have to be prepared for your partner seeing other people, which you might not like.

The other avenue is simply not to tell your partner. An escort is going to be focused on safe sex. So unlike dating someone else, he or she is not going to put you at risk of getting a disease.

You can look at seeing an escort as just a way to blow off some steam that would otherwise harm your relationship. And if you don’t tell your partner, nobody else will.

It’s not an escort’s job to rat you out. He or she wants to be just as discreet as you. So if you do see an escort, it’s probably not a good idea to tell your partner about it. What they don’t know can’t hurt them.

The bottom line is to know yourself. You can see an escort and not harm your relationship. Or you may feel so guilty you don’t enjoy it.

Make the choice that is right for you.

Of course, we are not encouraging people to see escorts. We are just responding to the questions we get.